It's also dangerous.
Not just because your trusted mate could bring an STD your way, but what about the other person? What if that side piece is unstable? Fatal Attraction wasn't just a movie. If you're a Discovery ID addict like me, you know that the other woman -- or the other man--can be crazy. Mentally unstable and come for the spouse or girlfriend.
As the media continues to pull the curtain back on the Petreaus affair, women should be taking notes. When a woman enter a relationship with a man who's committed to another woman, you have to know immediately that she has issues. What sane woman wants a man who is not hers?
Quick answer, a sane woman won't settle for that BS.
So, if a woman is willing to wait for Feb. 15 to celebrate Valentine's Day, to get her Christmas gifts on December 23 or December 26, to eat a piece of pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving night after having a one-woman dinner of frozen turkey alone, she's pretty damned nuts.
But she won't, more than likely, take her anger and hurt feelings out on the man who isn't giving her what she needs. Nope.
She's mad at the wife or girlfriend.
She stalks the wife or girlfriend.
She leaves notes, sends emails and Facebook messages to the woman who has what she wants. But why is mad at the woman?
More than likely, the spouse is clueless that she's dealing with a lying, cheating bastard. So, she is shocked when she finds out this crazy bitch can describe her man's naked body.
I can only imagine what Holly Petreaus felt like when she found out that the woman, Paula Broadwell, who had been embedded with her husband to write a book was actually going all in and bedding her husband. Especially since Broadwell is married herself and 20 years younger than the former general.
The sordid story surrounding the resignation of CIA Director David Petraeus continues to grow. This morning there's word that the top U.S. commander in Afghanistan, Gen. John Allen, is under investigation for "inappropriate communications" with the woman who kicked off the chain of events that led to the uncovering of the extramarital affair Petraeus was having (with a different woman) and his resignation.What's the victim supposed to do? Forgive the lying cheater? That's an option but not a good one. When the crazy ass other woman sees that her plans to ruin the relationship didn't work, expect her actions to escalate.
Allen, as NPR's Tom Bowman reported on Morning Edition, has told Pentagon officials that he did nothing wrong. But investigators have discovered, officials say, 20,000 to 30,000 pages of emails and electronic documents sent between Allen and Jill Kelley, 37, of Tampa. The Pentagon is now investigating Allen's communications with Kelley. Allen's nomination to be commander of U.S. and NATO forces in Europe has been put on hold.
With Allen's entrance into the story and the new twist involving Kelley, this seems like a good time for a guide to who's who and what's what:
— Retired Gen. David Petraeus. The former top U.S. commander in Afghanistan, the 60-year-old Petraeus became director of the CIA in the summer of 2011. It was sometime after he left the Army and took over at the CIA, Petraeus has reportedly told friends, that he began an affair with Paula Broadwell. She's a now-40-year-old major in the Army Reserve. They reportedly ended the affair about four months ago. This morning's Washington Post reports that some of the retired general's advisers say he "planned to stay in the job even after he acknowledged the affair to the FBI, hoping the episode would never become public. He resigned last week after being told to do so by Director of National Intelligence James R. Clapper Jr. on the day President Obama was reelected."
— Paula Broadwell. A specialist in counterterrorism issues as well as an Army reservist, Broadwell is the author of All In: The Education of General David Petraeus, a biography of Petraeus. While working on that book, she lived and worked with the then-general's staff in Afghanistan. Like Petraeus, she is married. On Monday, FBI agents were seen searching her home in Charlotte, N.C.
— Jill Kelley. Described in reports as a volunteer social liaison with military families at MacDill Air Force Base in Tampa, Kelley knows Petraeus and his wife Holly. Earlier this year, she reportedly told an acquaintance who works for the FBI about harassing emails she had been receiving. During that investigation, the FBI traced the emails to Broadwell. According to The New York Times, officials say Broadwell "saw Ms. Kelley as a rival for her affections with Mr. Petraeus." As the FBI investigated the emails to Kelley, agents turned up online messages exchanged by Petraeus and Broadwell that revealed their affair. Kelley is married.
— Gen. John Allen. The FBI's investigation that uncovered the emails and revealed the Petraeus-Broadwell affair also led to the discovery of communications between Allen and Kelley. According to a senior U.S. defense official, as The Washington Post writes, the emails are "potentially inappropriate." Again, the 58-year-old Allen has reportedly said there was nothing inappropriate in the messages. He is married.
— Unnamed FBI Agent. According to The Wall Street Journal, the "federal agent who launched the investigation that ultimately led to the resignation of Central Intelligence Agency chief David Petraeus was barred from taking part in the case over the summer due to superiors' concerns that he was personally involved in the case, according to officials familiar with the probe. ... New details about how the Federal Bureau of Investigation handled the case suggest that even as the bureau delved into Mr. Petraeus's personal life, the agency had to address conduct by its own agent—who allegedly sent shirtless photos of himself to a woman [Jill Kelley] involved in the case prior to the investigation." That agent also reportedly told at least one member of Congress about the investigation of Petraeus.
— Vernon Loeb. "My wife says I'm the most clueless person in America," The Washington Post journalist writes this morning. He was the "ghost writer" of Broadwell's book about Petraeus. According to Loeb, "when the news broke Friday that Petraeus was resigning in disgrace because of an adulterous affair, I was dumbfounded."
I'm not saying when you get married, you should arm yourself --but it's not a bad idea. I'm just NOT endorsing it.
If he cheats, leave. Plain and simple. Let her have him. My mama always said, the way you get him is the way you lose him. Remember that, Callista Gingrich.
Just don't get caught out there by that crazed broad. She really hates you for no reason and has misplaced anger, low morals and extremely low self-esteem. Maybe she needs a subscription to Ancestry.com so that she can find her daddy and work through those Daddy issues? Just a thought.